“I discovered that no one is looking for a meaningful connection or a serious conversation. Everyone wants to catered and be heard, no one wants to listen for just a second.”
In no way does the first part of the post make it sound like the commenter is qualifying the statement to only the subset of people they have dated.
I’m happily married, and I know people I would enjoy spending time with if I wasn’t. The world doesn’t seem bereft of thoughtful, intelligent, generous people to me. To me, it sounds like it’s a problem with the commenter.
I guess I’m just not reading the literal exact words they wrote, but interpreting what they likely meant was “no one (in the large pool of people I have tried dating) is looking for a meaningful relationship.” It’s like psychoanalzying someone after they got dumped for saying “women are evil” and saying “omg this guy is an incel!” He’s venting about a negative experience, not debating that women are all trash humans. Making generalizations because you’re upset doesn’t make you a bad person or an incel or…
E: also sounds like you’re assuming the worst of some random dude on the internet rather than just seeing him as someone who’s upset or in a bad situation.
If you’ve never run into the situation of living somewhere that everyone seems to only care about themselves I’m glad for you, but that absolutely does happen. I’m a pretty sociable person and moving from 1 city/neighborhood to another, I want nothing to do with “many, many” women around here because they are exactly as he described, there are some cool women too definitely, but the place I used to live had a majority really cool interesting and unique people. If I wasn’t lucky enough to see personally that there are a lot of women who aren’t surface level, I probably would’ve said the same thing as he did. Which is why I said the response I would have is “man that sucks sorry you have to deal with that.”
To quote (emphasis mine):
“I discovered that no one is looking for a meaningful connection or a serious conversation. Everyone wants to catered and be heard, no one wants to listen for just a second.”
In no way does the first part of the post make it sound like the commenter is qualifying the statement to only the subset of people they have dated.
I’m happily married, and I know people I would enjoy spending time with if I wasn’t. The world doesn’t seem bereft of thoughtful, intelligent, generous people to me. To me, it sounds like it’s a problem with the commenter.
I guess I’m just not reading the literal exact words they wrote, but interpreting what they likely meant was “no one (in the large pool of people I have tried dating) is looking for a meaningful relationship.” It’s like psychoanalzying someone after they got dumped for saying “women are evil” and saying “omg this guy is an incel!” He’s venting about a negative experience, not debating that women are all trash humans. Making generalizations because you’re upset doesn’t make you a bad person or an incel or…
E: also sounds like you’re assuming the worst of some random dude on the internet rather than just seeing him as someone who’s upset or in a bad situation.
If you’ve never run into the situation of living somewhere that everyone seems to only care about themselves I’m glad for you, but that absolutely does happen. I’m a pretty sociable person and moving from 1 city/neighborhood to another, I want nothing to do with “many, many” women around here because they are exactly as he described, there are some cool women too definitely, but the place I used to live had a majority really cool interesting and unique people. If I wasn’t lucky enough to see personally that there are a lot of women who aren’t surface level, I probably would’ve said the same thing as he did. Which is why I said the response I would have is “man that sucks sorry you have to deal with that.”