I believe you see the main issue with your experiences - the sample size. With small enough sample you can experience almost anything. Wisdom is knowing what you can and what you cant extrapolate to the entire population

This is the most unnecessary nerd comment I’ll ever make on this platform… but

I believe the bell curve wouldn’t represent the expected distribution in this case. I m not entirely sure what would be the correct distribution but I suspect Chi^2 or poisson.

When being taught that no is supposed to mean no I dont believe there is any other appropriate reaction to being given the divorce papers