You’re so young I don’t even know what to say other than if you know he’s your person then you and he need to sit down and hash out a plan to move into your own place together as soon as humanly possible. Like, within months you need to find a space for you and him to exist in together without others.
You’re already trying to manage a relationship while really really young, and I won’t get into why that’s extra challenging. So having someone else around all the time, whether it’s family or roommates, is just not helpful.
You won’t know if this is going to last with your partner until you both have a space of your own. And since you’re married, you need to figure out whether it’s going to work out sooner than later.
Side Advice: You are 16. You are going to change significantly over the next 10-15 years. You need to feel confident that your partner is going to be with you no matter how much you both morph during that extremely transformative time.
Family has to earn and maintain your respect just like anyone else.
If they degrade the quality of your life, it’s ok to cut them out to help your own mental health. If they care about you they’ll learn to respect you for who you are…as long as you’re not hurting others with your decisions.