FumpyAer [any, comrade/them]

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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • I wouldn’t be 100% transparent on that unless you know the friend very well. It may be better be a bit vague. Something like: “I get anxious when we make soft plans without deciding the specifics. Could we set an actual time, date, and activity when we first decide to make plans?”

    That said, sometimes friends do have to cancel plans with you for reasons that don’t involve you. Just happened to me last weekend. My friend canceled on the day citing a “family emergency.” You do have to somehow find a way to be okay with that when it happens, within reason.

    Personally, if somebody told me that they were feeling so strongly about me, I might get anxious myself about how much they rely on me. It seems like your feelings are out of proportion to the actual problem, and something you should talk to somebody about (and thank you for taking the first step here!)