OrionsMask [he/him, comrade/them]

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Cake day: August 26th, 2020

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  • I’ve known one of my best friends for a long time but we used to fight like cats and dogs, and eventually it hit a point where we stopped talking for about 2 years (which ended up hurting both of us in the long run). She was happily married and with a teenage kid, and in those 2 years, she met a guy online and started a polyamorous relationship with him (basically she has two husbands now).

    They’re visiting because they live in another country now (they moved to live with him) and I’ve met him a few times now, and I just cannot stand the guy. I really try hard to accept him but there are a few things about him that really irk me. He is insanely insecure and he’ll get mopey if we’re talking about things that are from before she met him (we have over a decade old friendship! we went to uni together! we’re going to have memories!), he’s obviously insecure about the fact that I have a better relationship with her daughter than he does (I’ve known the kid since she was 4). And his insecurity manifests in such a way that he becomes emotionally manipulative and controlling and not respectful of the boundaries that others have with her. He definitely gives off “I don’t want other men talking to her” energy.

    It’s just exhausting. I’m happy that she’s happy, but I wish she had found someone more normal. The only thing that he has going for him is that he spoils her rotten and she loves that, she loves the attention, but man, the guy is a complete dud otherwise. And frankly he hit the jackpot, he went from jacking off to streamers to getting a whole family overnight, and they even moved their lives for him. It’s just wild to me how something like that happens in just 2 years. I want to be able to talk to my friend without needing to figure out how to insert him in or risk making him upset.



  • Every country on the planet would retaliate against the US to try and keep it contained to North America. A lot of them know that, which is why it wouldn’t surprise me to see more alliances spring up in opposition to NATO while NATO itself starts to disband.

    Sorry for sounding like a doomer, but every single time I expect countries to do the right thing - and every single time rational minds say the rational thing - the world seems to do the opposite. Is there any actual evidence that other counties would challenge US hegemony in any scenario?

    We’re already en route to destroying our planet and people aren’t doing jack about that. I’ve gotten to the point where I’m pessimistic that if the US decides it wants the world to burn in a nuclear holocaust, other countries won’t just let it happen. The way things are going, many might nod along and say it’s a great idea.






  • I am notorious for feeling the existential tug in the month leading up to my birthday, so I feel you. Do something that you don’t get to do that often that will make you happy, go to your favourite restaurant (or cook your favourite food), walk in your favourite place. Try not to be internal and indoors on this day, try to do something that celebrates even if it’s in a small way.

    After all, you were born x amount of years today and that’s joyous. I won’t say you’re loved (by the people here) because when people say that to me, it comes across a bit hollow. But by virtue of you being the type of person who chooses to spend their time in leftist spaces, I sincerely hope you find a way to have a joyous, happy birthday. Maybe that is love.