SuperZutsuki [they/them]

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Cake day: April 10th, 2021

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  • You don’t get friends without meeting people. That’s what the groups are for. If you’re into high culture shit, find groups for those interests. If you want really close friends that do sleepovers and whatnot, find the ND people in these groups. They’re more likely to say fuck social norms and do cool shit as an adult. You want something very specific but apparently want it to appear out of thin air, which is not how social relationships work. And you’re never going to find the “perfect” friends. Absolutely don’t befriend chuds, transphobes, racists, etc but social relationships are messy and you need to give people some grace. Like you can’t expect people you just met to want to spend all their time with you. They may have opinions on culture that you don’t agree with but it’s not a big deal (unless they’re just a bad person). Example: I have a friend that is highly opinionated on what is “good” art and their personal style clashes completely with me (their basic femme stuff in earth tones vs. my maximalist queer NB fits). Despite this, we are great friends and use these differences to have great discussions and poke fun at each other a bit. You may find a person who disagrees with you vehemently but if you actually talk to them, you realize their background is totally different and they’re not bad for having the “wrong” opinion, just a different journey on their way to finding their taste.

    All of this rambling to say: get out of your head/house, go to groups of people with similar interests, and get to know people. This is how you form friendships. If you do any kind of art or craft (or are interested in learning!), that’s the best bet for finding chill people. Art/craft folk love hanging out and making shit. (Don’t forget art can also mean music, film, photography, etc)



  • If you live in a populated area: find groups that do things you like to do

    If you live in the middle of nowhere: move at all costs

    I lived in a suburban hell place until 25 and also a very tiny town with nothing around for 50 miles a few years later. I’ve also lived in a few small-medium size college towns and spent a good amount of time in larger nearby cities. It’s all about population density and finding like-minded people. It’s so much harder to find people with common interests in rural areas unless you like drinking, meth, or shooting guns (US perspective lol). Similarly, the suburbs are devoid of culture and all the good shit happens in cities. If you already live in a city, you’ve got the hardest step taken care of.