fae/faer | they/them
I’m in the process of parting out a rifle currently, and already have a handgun. I figure there are plenty of queer people who can’t own firearms for good reasons, so it’s up to those of us who aren’t at risk of intentional misuse to be community protectors (this applies to non-queer allies, too!)
However, we have noticed their face fat shifted and became more conventionally femme, whereas ours hasn’t from what we can tell.
see, I felt this way too, but I’ve realized that, for me, the issue is dysphoria plus seeing the changes happen gradually, so I don’t see that big change like I have in other people.
Our boobs have also not gotten as big as most trans femmes who post their stuff online, sadly.
the general guidance is that we transfems max about a cup size less than our mom and/or sisters, and it tends to get spread out differently – mine are also slightly triangular, which is a totally normal breast shape for women without large boobs, even cis women.
the problem with faceapp and similar apps/filters is they basically output “if you had the opposite AGAB, had a perfect skincare routine, wore makeup, and were also a model”, which isn’t a sane goal unless you’re planning to get electrolysis and FFS and spend two hours a day on skincare and usually wear makeup. the facial result of transition is usually more along the lines of “you, but softer” – which is still very nice and a marked difference, but almost nobody transitions into looking like faceapp says they will, because it sets unrealistic expectations.
most trans femmes we have seen we think look more femme than us/the body.
that’s likely an effect of dysphoria, friend.
I don’t see any way this is anything but a filament issue, it’s not like your print head could print a layer after the layer on top of it…
fwiw, I’ve had similar issues with some multicolor filaments, I think sometimes they just aren’t made quite right but still pass QA.
cis women don’t like when trans women are included as women because some trans women didn’t grow up as women and thus didn’t experience the same sexism, misogyny, and socialization that victimized them.
I’ve discussed this exact topic with my (cis woman) partner who struggles with this quite a bit, it’s wild because she’s very accepting and supportive of trans people, but struggles with feeling like the unique horrors of the Cis Woman Experience™ are sort-of being appropriated by trans women? it’s a really weird thing to address, because I see where she’s coming from, but I just feel that telling like 1% of women that they can’t call themselves “women” without a qualifier is needlessly derisive.
I think enbies are liable to experience more discrimination and hate than binary trans people, esp. once the medical transition reaches a point where the trans person is able to conform to the expected gender norms. Enbies in both social and medical transition are often aiming to permanently occupy that in-between space that makes early transition so difficult for so many trans people
hey, it me! what’s extra weird is that I feel almost pressured to fit into feminine gender norms to try to avoid being in the “please discriminate against me” class of people, but at the same time, I just… don’t want to be there all the time? like wearing a dress and makeup while cleanshaven is a wonderful time when it’s the gender vibe, but other times I just want to wear jeans and a tee and not bother shaving without being seen as a fruity man by 90% of people. honestly, thinking about it, the sheer effort I have to put in to not be read as a man while also not quite being read as a woman is, frankly, exhausting.
HRT isn’t not a magic cure-all but it does feel magical at times, results come pretty slowly at our age, and get started whenever you want to because you can get at least a couple of months of the emotional and mental effects before any permanent physical effects happen (and a month or three is plenty of time to decide to turn back if you don’t like the emotional and mental effects).
if you want your genitals to atrophy less and keep their function, you’ll need to get and maintain maintenance erections for 10-15 minute at a time, a few times a week – I didn’t do as much maintenance masturbation as I wish I had due to lack of libido, and I regret it sometimes, although I’ve found ways to work around it
oh, and as transfems, especially at our age, there’s absolutely no shame in asking your doctor for erectile dysfunction meds! sildenafil gave me a headache, so now I’m on a low daily dose of tadalafil – and keep in mind that too high a daily dose of the latter can give you weird muscle cramps (found that out the hard way).
33 here and started HRT about two and a half years ago.
They also have one of the best reward programs for designers, and creating an account isn’t difficult; I really don’t see how this is an issue where links should be banned.
Plus this post isn’t even a makerworld link, it’s a hackaday link, so a URL filter wouldn’t have done anything in this case anyways.
this commenter is awful, but I do have to appreciate the person who responded to them with “GPT2, calm down.”