

This is a major L take. Your argument is to compare bad behavior performed by a 5 year old child and a grown adult, and say “they are basically equivalent”. The Internet is trying to point out to you how ridiculous it is to hold a 5 year old and professional adult to the same standards.
The teacher is hands down “the asshole” in this scenario, and I am saying this as a professional public school teacher. Yes, the five year old was wrong to steal, but the kid is five and is in the process of learning what society considers right and wrong. The teacher escalated the scenario due to her bigotry and then expected the father to be susceptive to her concerns about the child stealing stuff. She should have professionally address the behavior to the child’s parents and admin (especially if it was repeated behavior) so that the team can help the child understand why what they are doing is incorrect.
Oops, that’s my fault on messing up the context. Nevertheless, my point still stands.