Actual femdude here, the abiding is necessary 'cuz we’re basically invisible unless we present as fem and it kinda sucks.

I’ll meet someone new and they’ll be checking out my fancy waxed 'stache and dorky thembo vibe but never even glance at my tits. It’s like, “Hello‽ My itty bitty kitty titties are down here‽”.

The fucking body scanners at the airport flag my chest even when I don’t wear a bra, but I can go topless in public and nobody so much as bats an eye unless they already know that I’m a masc-presenting transfem enby. =U