I am not asking about switches, I’m asking about people who identify with a submissive role rather than a dominant role.
I can understand intuitively why a dominant could feel vulnerable or violated in a submissive role and be uncomfortable in it, but I can only guess how a submissive would feel with roles swapped. And I’m sure these all can change wildly based on each person and their personality.
(This is a slower community, so doms talking about subbing are welcome too, although I’m more curious about the scenario in the title)
No, but for a very long time I waited to get what I thought was a normal adult woman sexuality, which in my understanding was a take charge, assertive sort of sexuality and was uncomfortable that I didn’t like that.
I have done a mini-domme thing with a dom and a male sub, it was ok that way. Like he’d say “tell him what to do” and making him do things for us, also making him watch the guy top me but not letting him participate, stuff like that. Only once, I did enjoy it.
It’s not like I feel threatened or anything like that, it’s more that subby guys turn me off, and I don’t find it sexy to be in charge. I could probably do it as a job, but it wouldn’t feel like sex, more like performance.