“But you’re gay… why do you like sailing and WWE?”
“Well, I feel like both of those are pretty gay considering the reputation the Navy has and WWE being all sweaty men.”
“EXPLAIN FIREARMS THEN.”
“Shooty go pew.”
“WHAT ARE YOU?!”
“Hungry.”
Based off of a real conversation I’ve had.
What is up with flamboyance anyway? Why is it such a (supposedly) common thing? Is there some sort of link or explanation? Not trying to be offensive, just curious
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Some dudes adopt the mannerisms to show that they’re gay. Other dudes have the mannerisms from the start. It doesn’t make a single lick of sense to me either. People are just people.
From my observation of my gay friends who are more flamboyant, it was a reaction to coming out of the closet and letting their friends and family know they are gay. They had seen others who were gay behave a certain way, and they embraced that life.
So, it’s on purpose? It’s, like, an act or something? An adaptation, perhaps? An adoption of mannerisms associated with the group one belongs to and wishes to be associated with (due to said belonging).
It’s part of gay culture, so it’s done both consciously and unconsciously. Just like when you butch/femme it up to impress someone consciously, some folks do it to fit in but not necessarily.
For one of my friends, it was like they were acting all the time as a straight person. When they came out they wanted to express their new self.
One of my friends stayed in the closet for years, even when all his friends knew he was gay, and we kept telling him we didn’t care. When he came out of the closet, he was over the top flamboyant. After a couple more years, he really toned back on most of the mannerisms. It was like he tried on the flamboyancy and then decided he just liked men, not the act.
I don’t believe that’s the case for everyone. There were 3 boys in my elementary school that were flamboyant from the earliest I can remember them. They just always had the mannerisms, and other kids talked and wondered even back in fourth grade, “Is he gay?”
Two of them eventually came out as gay. One ended up being straight, he was just very animated and coincidentally spoke with a lisp.
That is to say, some people naturally have a flamboyant energy. Others would have such an energy, but are shamed if they express it. There are simply too many reasons and factors at play to ascribe only one explanation.
Some people are just born that way, even if they are straight. Our family knows a son and a father, both straight, who have the exact same mannerisms that are extremely flamboyant. The nice thing is that the world is (generally) a lot more friendly now than it was way back when.