I wouldn’t say lying that you have an ex that you don’t actually have is a “big lie.” I mean yeah its a lie he shouldn’t have made, but I wouldn’t call it a big lie or even an important one. It does set a precedence of lying, which is bad, but the lie itself is one that really holds no weight on tge relationship (besides the act of lying in of itself). However the partner is not beyond fault either. Being this pushy about an ex is (I feel) a red flag. In the end, both parties involved are being stupid and toxic and probably just shouldn’t be together in the first place cause it will just escalate unless they can grow enough as people.
Being this pushy about an ex is (I feel) a red flag.
Yeah, but like I said this doesn’t really apply if she can sense that there is actually something messed up that he’s trying to hide. Which there is. Just being randomly pushy about it, I agree, that would be weird. But this is like someone getting mad when driving drunk because the police pulled them over for no reason. Like no… I pulled you over because you were driving drunk.
In the end, both parties involved are being stupid and toxic and probably just shouldn’t be together in the first place cause it will just escalate unless they can grow enough as people.
As far as the man, I completely agree. You have absolutely no basis for saying that the woman in this story needs to grow, though. Again: He’s hiding something and (presumably) she’s digging because she can sense he’s hiding something. That is my read of it. She could also be toxic and just digging because of some pathology on her part, but not necessarily.
I think the only right answer is to tell the truth and deal with whatever consequences come your way. A relationship supported by lying isnt a relationship worth having
Yeah. If telling the truth is accompanied by genuine growth as a person to where you understand the fucked-up-ness and that you’re probably not going to hear the end of it from this particular person, ever, then that could be a way of success too.
I wouldn’t say lying that you have an ex that you don’t actually have is a “big lie.” I mean yeah its a lie he shouldn’t have made, but I wouldn’t call it a big lie or even an important one. It does set a precedence of lying, which is bad, but the lie itself is one that really holds no weight on tge relationship (besides the act of lying in of itself). However the partner is not beyond fault either. Being this pushy about an ex is (I feel) a red flag. In the end, both parties involved are being stupid and toxic and probably just shouldn’t be together in the first place cause it will just escalate unless they can grow enough as people.
Yeah, but like I said this doesn’t really apply if she can sense that there is actually something messed up that he’s trying to hide. Which there is. Just being randomly pushy about it, I agree, that would be weird. But this is like someone getting mad when driving drunk because the police pulled them over for no reason. Like no… I pulled you over because you were driving drunk.
As far as the man, I completely agree. You have absolutely no basis for saying that the woman in this story needs to grow, though. Again: He’s hiding something and (presumably) she’s digging because she can sense he’s hiding something. That is my read of it. She could also be toxic and just digging because of some pathology on her part, but not necessarily.
Fair, we are only seeing this from a 4chan-er’s perspective (which is obviously fake and gay)
Yeah the whole thing is hilarious to me.
“I lied to my gf and now I have problems”
“I’m super edgelord”
“Keep lying, that’ll work, she’s the problem”
“You guys are hanging out with women?”
I was just randomly inserting my attempt at some actual advice into the mixture.
I think the only right answer is to tell the truth and deal with whatever consequences come your way. A relationship supported by lying isnt a relationship worth having
Yeah. If telling the truth is accompanied by genuine growth as a person to where you understand the fucked-up-ness and that you’re probably not going to hear the end of it from this particular person, ever, then that could be a way of success too.