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I had a low opinion of marriage even as a kid but [then] the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints invested millions (in 2008 money) to back Prop 8, to enshrine in the Constitution of California a ban on same-sex marriage. The amendment is still there.
It was interpreted by the California Supreme Court to outlaw the act of marrying two same-sex persons, but same-sex marriages from outside the state are still respected for accommodations purposes. That was a little relief.
At that point I decided that marriage is just a state thing, a license I’d get to acquire benefits, or not, and is meaningless outside the boundaries of state or federal law.
I have a wife and she has me, and just had our eleven year anniversary, but we are not married according to any nation or state, because fuck 'em.
Feeling pressured into marriage is a common issue for aromantics dating an alloromantic, regardless of sexuality.
Is alloromantic the opposite of aromantic? I tried to understand this by reading online definitions but am not sure at all.
The prefix Allo just means other, so when you have a pair of things the other one will normally become Allo-thing. Because we don’t make words the culturally accepted default position until there is something to contrast it with, most instances of Allo will describe the culturally accepted default.
Aromantic - Alloromantic
Asexual - Allosexual
Autistic - Allistic
Asocial - Allosocial
Aplatonic - Alloplatonic
Afamilial - Allofamilial
Asaurus - Allosaurus?
The prefix seems unnecessary and doesn’t even make sense with your last example. Why is it needed when the a- prefix works perfectly fine to contrast with the existing word as-is?
Aautistic doesn’t follow English’s rules for making words, we don’t do double vowl startings unless they are from very specific loan words that were popular enough to break the rules.
Same was alloistic doesn’t work without a hyphen because when you have an o from a prefix and I from a suffix you need to drop one of them to make the word work.
Basically English has illegal parrings of letters you can’t make and when they would come up you need to hyphen them together or drop letters.
See eject, which is ex-ject but we can’t have xj so we drop the x.
Or attend, which is ad-tend but we can’t do dt so make it tt instead.
Wading should be wade-ing but ei, so we drop the e.
Etc
I don’t think there needs to be a word that describes the negative of a condition. You just don’t need a descriptor at all. There’s no value add.
Inject vs eject? Am I being trolled here?
You’re not being trolled this is literally how the English language works: https://www.google.com/search?q=eject+etymology+&oe=utf-8
So would you propose we just say autistic people and normal people? Doesn’t that seem kind of cruel and bothering?
Should we also say asexual people and normal people, or aromantic people and normal people, trans people and normal people?
Where do you draw the line?
autistic/non-autistic, asexual/sexual, aromantic/romantic, trans/cis
asexual and aromantic are already based on being the negative, adding another term to reverse that just makes a double negative
When I married my wife almost 15 years ago my mother-in-law gave me a shirt that said game over with a happy bride stick figure and a very sad groom figure so I took that shirt and I wrote a :-) over the guy’s :-( and I wore that shit under my tuxedo and as soon as the wedding was over I opened my jacket and walked around with that shirt proudly for the rest of the night. Yeah game over, I won.
I’m so glad younger people are largely abandoning the “wife bad” garbage. Maybe it’s not so bad to, you know, openly enjoy being with someone you love without having to make a joke about it.
It’s so bizarre. My models for a successful marriage growing up were my grandparents, and they adored each other. Comfortable enough to tease each other, but I couldn’t imagine them ever doing something like using a wedding or an anniversary to make these kinds of weird “Wife bad” jokes.
No one has to “get married by 23 and if they ever get divorced they’re massive failures” anymore.
Depends on the part of the world you live in. I’m that age and coworkers (!) constantly joke about having to find me a wife and find it a bit odd that I’m not even in a long-time relationship yet.
I had this colleague a few years back who was 28-29 at the time, and people were bad-mouthing him because he wasn’t married, saying that something must be wrong with him. Societal pressure is very strong here.
You wouldn’t believe this is happening in the EU, right?
