I mean I am AFAB and I do identify as a girl but also I don’t feel entirely binary. I guess I wasn’t assigned Nonbinary at birth but it still feels weird to say I’m trans when I’m AFAB and present and act like and call myself a girl. I don’t know, help me out here people.
I mean, labels are all shorthand for others to understand your lived experience, yeah? Some people who are non-binary call themselves trans, some don’t, and both groups are equally valid. Some people who are non-binary live comfortably with the same gender presentation as what they got assigned at birth, and that’s just as valid. Ditto for binary people, trans or otherwise.
Who you are inside you is what’s important, the rest is just stuff to help others get an idea of it if/when you choose to share.
I think that if I said without any context that I’m trans people might think I’m transfem, or if they knew I was AFAB they might think I’m trying to appropriate transfem experiences. I like the trans flag and think it’s cute (I’ve even thought of getting thigh highs like these but I worry people will get the wrong idea and think I’m apropriating trans women).
People might assume that sure, but you can also always add more context and clarify if you want. It’s always up to you what you want to share about yourself. There’s also a lot of overlap between transfem experiences and other groups, it’s not like one group has a monopoly on everything they experience. Plenty of cis women wear thigh highs, for example, and some cis men even.
The trans flag is cute! i like it a bunch too.
You won’t be appropriating anything, friend! You are free to feel out your gender and identify as trans if that is what makes sense to you, From what you’ve described you’ve got gender stuff™ going on, so fly your flag!
Also, other trans and enby people who see those colors on you will feel safer in your presence and you’ll be sending a signal about trans stuff being okay in general, so even if you weren’t trans why would anyone object?
That’s very true, you make very good points. I often have this problem that I end up overthinking things and worry too much that people will get upset with me. Also that’s very true, you make a great point about other people seeing the colors and feeling safer whether I’m trans or not.