Aceivan [they/them]
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Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto chat@hexbear.net•My girlfriend brother got made at me for saying video games aren’t a hobbyEnglish7·2 days agoIf it’s the power connector on a graphics card, it isn’t really the sort of jelly-bean swappable part you’re thinking of (more of a repair part), and likely not something he needs until/unless his burns out.
To be clear I would not advocate for giving him an “ultimatum”. To me that implies an “or else”. What are you going to do when he goes “you’re being a condescending ignoramus, f off”? Just caring about him doesn’t give you the right to tell him what he should do with his life. If you must bring it up to him I would differentiate between the harmful things you have (personally, not via what your gf tells you) observed about his gaming, vs his gaming in general, because its clearly a large part of his life that he enjoys in a way that goes beyond building computers.
Who are you to tell him to stop gaming? I mean you can say that, but why would he listen, he is his own person.
Frankly you’d be better off leaving well enough alone, at least until the hurt has subsided for him, and should frame any future discussions in terms of things he cares about not just telling him he’s living his life wrong.
I think gamers (like anyone) can be oversensitive about this stuff even when they have an obvious problem, but in this case it doesn’t sound like you’re being sensitive at all to the fact that he has autonomy and might see some or most aspects of his gaming habit as positive or neutral
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto chat@hexbear.net•My girlfriend brother got made at me for saying video games aren’t a hobbyEnglish9·2 days agoAs someone who’s known a lot of gamers, I think this is something people mostly have to figure out for themselves, especially games that are engaging to an addictive degree but maddening (league of legends comes to mind). If there’s a gambling addiction buried in there as well that’s more serious but still not something you probably should broach with him unplanned.
The main thing you should know is that (IMO) he assigns moral value to the term hobby and feels you demeaned his gaming as frivolous by insisting you didn’t consider gaming a hobby. I assume you didn’t intend to say “you’re wasting your life on meaningless games” or anything so judgemental but that’s probably not far from how he took it.
If it comes up again you might be able to make some gesture towards understanding the depth of his enjoyment of games, or the meaning he draws from them or skill he has at them, but ultimately if you view it as an addiction he has and he views it as a good hobby, you’re going to disagree, and unless you are really close to him (you don’t inherit your GFs closeness by proxy), you might not be the person to try and push him on this topic. If your goal is to help with his potential addiction I would talk to the family first, not directly to him, even if you’re right, it may not be helpful or polite to say, but if your primary goal is to “make it up to him” you should be apologetic (he may still see this as just more patronizing).
His reactiveness and seeming insecurity about this probably indicate he knows that (at least by society’s standards) he has a problem, but pushing the issue and being blatant about what you think about his habits may just upset him further and entrench his mentality, so you should consider the ramifications for you and your sister before pushing further
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.nettoUnited States | News & Politics@lemmy.ml•A Hopkins Professor Says America’s Descent Into Authoritarianism May Have Started With Policing in Blue Cities. If That’s True, We’re in Big TroubleEnglish5·2 days agoI’ll say it again
Did you even read the article? Do you have anything to say about the example discussed in it?
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.nettoUnited States | News & Politics@lemmy.ml•A Hopkins Professor Says America’s Descent Into Authoritarianism May Have Started With Policing in Blue Cities. If That’s True, We’re in Big TroubleEnglish121·2 days agoby cops… who are typically directed to do so by mayors… who are usually dems…
“these right wingers” are just predominantly brown leftists you disagree with. Did you even read the article?
If you’ve ever lived in a strongly blue major city for any length of time you’ll have seen this play out. Liberal mayor runs on big promises of reform, of progressive policy, maybe even of radical change, and a few years later there’s another incident, more unrest, whatever, and they’re first in line to have the cops put it down with force. There’s a whole interplay with right wing media and racist voters and other factors, but time and time again dem local governments choose to enact “law and order” overpolicing over solving the fundamental systemic issues causing violence, property crime, etc
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto chapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Hasan is blowing up on TikTok over the detainmentEnglish22·2 days agoyeah someone who watches hasan and learns about the world and takes what he says seriously is a lot more likely to then be receptive to going further, learning more and coming to understand hasan’s limitations and bad/mid takes. But on the whole he’s a positive, even if he’s got a ton of fans who are oblivious or don’t fully take his points/logic to heart, let alone go further, they are at least not instinctively anticommunist and generally vibe with us.
He makes calls and has takes that i don’t agree with, often in the interest of “optics”, but just covering the shit that he does is a huge boost to the level of discourse happening in a lot of corners of the internet. Just getting people talking about ansarallah and their blockade in a positive light and with context is a huge boost against the “they’re just terrorists attacking civilian shipping vessels” people
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto chapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Poor People's March (1968) - New General Megathread for the 12th-15th of May 2025English2·3 days agoublock origin still blocks all youtube ads on firefox
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto chapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Poor People's March (1968) - New General Megathread for the 12th-15th of May 2025English4·3 days agofennec still supports ad blockers! ublock origin should do the trick.
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto chapotraphouse@hexbear.net•did the chapos intentionally do this to try and stop people from "stealing" the premium feed?English21·6 days agowhere were you when jumble.top was kill
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto Slop.@hexbear.net•John Fetterman is deeply unwellEnglish15·6 days agowell yeah, I could tell that from his unhinged zionist ranting
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto news@hexbear.net•Bulletins and News Discussion from May 5th to May 11th, 2025 - Fuck Fascists FridayEnglish6·6 days agoyeah reporting says it’s “because he didn’t disclose” the pictures when he was being vetted but it seems pretty mild lol
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto Palestine@lemmy.ml•Exclusive: Jordan profited up to $400,000 per Gaza aid airdrop, sources sayEnglish8·7 days agothis is disgusting
I would expect nothing less from a literal monarchy that hosts US military bases while claiming to care about palestinians, but still
wonder how it is on aarch64, I might try it
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto news@hexbear.net•Bulletins and News Discussion from May 5th to May 11th, 2025 - Fuck Fascists FridayEnglish13·9 days agonot particularly no.
if you like videos hasan had this guy on who seemed pretty good: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FptMU-0Sg8
and that guest recommended this video for something more polished and more detailed background: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xrmGuR73QKQ
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto chat@hexbear.net•Where are you allowed to post satire articles?English3·9 days agooutright bans of certain types of posts also won’t prevent someone from registering new accounts and making them anyhow any more than containment comms do, its a matter of moderation
I agree they are obviously inappropriate for c/chat. I reported both of them, lets see what happens
Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.netto chat@hexbear.net•Where are you allowed to post satire articles?English1·9 days agoI mean yeah, I also don’t find that funny, but I don’t think it needs to be banned entirely from the site, we have containment comms for a reason. Honestly even the impersonation would have been… I hesitate to say fine but not a big deal, if it was just used to make a bit post in fakenews or badposting or something.
This but democrats too
I guess just to say that it’s translated and wasn’t posted in english but a little odd yep