Aceivan [they/them]

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  • If it’s the power connector on a graphics card, it isn’t really the sort of jelly-bean swappable part you’re thinking of (more of a repair part), and likely not something he needs until/unless his burns out.

    To be clear I would not advocate for giving him an “ultimatum”. To me that implies an “or else”. What are you going to do when he goes “you’re being a condescending ignoramus, f off”? Just caring about him doesn’t give you the right to tell him what he should do with his life. If you must bring it up to him I would differentiate between the harmful things you have (personally, not via what your gf tells you) observed about his gaming, vs his gaming in general, because its clearly a large part of his life that he enjoys in a way that goes beyond building computers.

    Who are you to tell him to stop gaming? I mean you can say that, but why would he listen, he is his own person.

    Frankly you’d be better off leaving well enough alone, at least until the hurt has subsided for him, and should frame any future discussions in terms of things he cares about not just telling him he’s living his life wrong.

    I think gamers (like anyone) can be oversensitive about this stuff even when they have an obvious problem, but in this case it doesn’t sound like you’re being sensitive at all to the fact that he has autonomy and might see some or most aspects of his gaming habit as positive or neutral


  • As someone who’s known a lot of gamers, I think this is something people mostly have to figure out for themselves, especially games that are engaging to an addictive degree but maddening (league of legends comes to mind). If there’s a gambling addiction buried in there as well that’s more serious but still not something you probably should broach with him unplanned.

    The main thing you should know is that (IMO) he assigns moral value to the term hobby and feels you demeaned his gaming as frivolous by insisting you didn’t consider gaming a hobby. I assume you didn’t intend to say “you’re wasting your life on meaningless games” or anything so judgemental but that’s probably not far from how he took it.

    If it comes up again you might be able to make some gesture towards understanding the depth of his enjoyment of games, or the meaning he draws from them or skill he has at them, but ultimately if you view it as an addiction he has and he views it as a good hobby, you’re going to disagree, and unless you are really close to him (you don’t inherit your GFs closeness by proxy), you might not be the person to try and push him on this topic. If your goal is to help with his potential addiction I would talk to the family first, not directly to him, even if you’re right, it may not be helpful or polite to say, but if your primary goal is to “make it up to him” you should be apologetic (he may still see this as just more patronizing).

    His reactiveness and seeming insecurity about this probably indicate he knows that (at least by society’s standards) he has a problem, but pushing the issue and being blatant about what you think about his habits may just upset him further and entrench his mentality, so you should consider the ramifications for you and your sister before pushing further




  • yeah someone who watches hasan and learns about the world and takes what he says seriously is a lot more likely to then be receptive to going further, learning more and coming to understand hasan’s limitations and bad/mid takes. But on the whole he’s a positive, even if he’s got a ton of fans who are oblivious or don’t fully take his points/logic to heart, let alone go further, they are at least not instinctively anticommunist and generally vibe with us.

    He makes calls and has takes that i don’t agree with, often in the interest of “optics”, but just covering the shit that he does is a huge boost to the level of discourse happening in a lot of corners of the internet. Just getting people talking about ansarallah and their blockade in a positive light and with context is a huge boost against the “they’re just terrorists attacking civilian shipping vessels” people