Transfem enby here - the way it works for me (can’t speak for anyone else) is essentially as two valid options. Some of my friends alternate, some stick with one, but if you’re going to pick just one then those are the correct options. Can’t guarantee it’ll be the same for others with multiple valid pronouns but most will be happy to explain if you ask. Personally I list them from most to least preferred but they’re both right so as long as it’s one of those I don’t care that much
Transfem enby here - the way it works for me (can’t speak for anyone else) is essentially as two valid options. Some of my friends alternate, some stick with one, but if you’re going to pick just one then those are the correct options. Can’t guarantee it’ll be the same for others with multiple valid pronouns but most will be happy to explain if you ask. Personally I list them from most to least preferred but they’re both right so as long as it’s one of those I don’t care that much