For what it’s worth, US limit is only 20mph with full motor. Class 3 is allowed, with 28mph (45kph, actually) when using pedal assist. I threw a larger chainring on my eBike to make maintaining 28mph easier and I just pedal everywhere.
I would expect that any commercial car can go 420mph if you drop it from high enough.
Being mean is willfully making people around you feel worse. Being cringe is negligently making people around you feel worse. Once you’re aware you’re cringe, if you do nothing to mitigate it, you’re being willfully negligent, which is just as bad as doing something intentionally.
Cringe is just vicarious embarrassment. You are feeling embarrassed on behalf of someone else. Unlike empathy, where you share the emotion someone else is experiencing, cringe is generally embarrassment for the actions of someone else who is not embarrassed.
I suspect this is an instinct that helps us create social norms. We are embarrassed that someone else is acting in a way that would embarrass us, so we are encouraged to let them know that what they’re doing isn’t right. This is helpful if someone has toilet paper stuck to their shoe, or their fly is down, or they have some food stuck in their teeth.
But it isn’t helpful if the thing they’re doing is intentional, harmless, and they’re owning it. Let people live their lives, and work on your response to their behavior or appearance rather than policing them to make yourself feel better.
NB: I am not a psychologist.
My grandmother died at a relatively young age of lupus complications and she had to end her whole career at 36 because she was so sick. I’m 27, and I am terrified I’m going to end up like her. Her quality of life was absolutely awful for the entire time I knew her. I don’t want that for myself.
Selena Gomez has lupus and Only Murders in the Building, entirely made after her diagnosis, is the best thing she’s done in her career, IMO.
The world has changed. Stay strong, you can do this!
What if I’m just lazy as my mum says?
You aren’t lazy. Laziness is just a term we use to shame people who aren’t doing what we want them to do. There are always reasons people don’t do stuff.
For people with ADHD, it’s often down to executive dysfunction. But there are other reasons.
Google Assistant or Siri are awesome for this. I just hold down a button on my phone or watch and then say, “Remind me <when> about <what>.”
My wife who is a saint and very patient encouraged me to do this enough times that it’s becoming a habit.
If y’all haven’t heard Jonathan Coulton’s song Mandelbrot Set you really should.
He has very specifically been going after birthright citizenship and has deported children born here because their parents weren’t citizens. That gains it its own category in the cartoon.