My memory sort of acts like a carousel/merry-go-round, in that I’ll store a memory, I know it is there, but I cannot access it at will, and it will re-appear at a random time at some point in the future when doing something completely unrelated.
A “memory-go-round”, if you will.
Bold of any of them to assume I’ll remember there was an “it” to remember in the first place. My best offer is a vague sense that I’ve forgotten something.
A vague sense of having forgotten something … that’s got to be true for ADHD and non-ADHD alike!
I always trust that feeling, what’s the downside to not doing so, other than time?
For me, a proper reminder needs to have a property like physically preventing progress until I take care of the thing, or jumping up and demanding my attention until I take care of the thing.
The most basic form is that if I need to do something tomorrow at noon, I don’t create a reminder. I create an alarm! And if the alarm goes off and the thing is not done, I snooze it instead of stop it.
Where ADHD and SelfHosted combine: I self host Trilium Notes to attempt to solve this problem. Most of the time it works.
Google Assistant or Siri are awesome for this. I just hold down a button on my phone or watch and then say, “Remind me <when> about <what>.”
My wife who is a saint and very patient encouraged me to do this enough times that it’s becoming a habit.
Nothing is more frustrating than knowing you wrote something down, but not knowing where.
Nothing is more frustrating than knowing you were supposed to write something down, then not remembering what that something was. Yet for some stupid reason you can remember you were going to write whatever it was down.
Yeah and you remember it while in the bus or the pool, where you can’t write it down anymore.
Yep, then you forget again before you can write it down.
Like a memory whack-a-mole.
I have a whiteboard on my desk. It’s the only effective “to do” list I’ve found, for me. It’s covered in chicken scratching. I erase stuff as I do them.
Whiteboards are great for this.
Woah. How large is that whiteboard?
About 18x8 inches. Not to worry, I have a classroom-sized whiteboard as a backup.