• y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      5 days ago

      I almost always forget to reciprocate in person lol

      Them: “How are you”

      Me: “Good”

      Them: “…”

      Me: “…”

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    Why does talking about a special interest have to be a negative/panic response? I do this all the time and people seem interested. Or they suddenly have to go haha. Either way, you asked! Though these days, talking about machine learning is more socially acceptable than it used to be thanks to ChatGPT! A lot of opportunities to correct misinformation too, though people hate being wrong, so that needs some care…

    Anyway, yeah, I take that as an invitation!

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      Agreed. Also, A and C assume things are bad which is a lame assumption. Sometimes things are going good specifically because of a special interest.

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      C because they apparently dont care how my day is and are just asking because that’s a thing people do for some reason.

      Ask me a lie of a question, get a lie for an answer.

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    I always go for D asap which ends up being C. I don’t want to have a superficial conversation with someone I may never see again. For some reason I am more commonly asked “Any plans for the weekend?” and I always just say “nope” which usually ends the conversation there. One time someone hit me with a “Any plans for the holiday?” which really threw me off because I didn’t have a canned response and I said “I’m picnicking” and I just felt so awkward and embarrassed that I froze and felt like covering my face.

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    Being German alone makes you hate that English question.

    Do you want to hear it or not?!

    Don’t be surprised to get an answer!

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    I’m at work in retail so my answer is E: skip the question entirely and ask what they’d like.

    Normally works, except the one time I got called a cunt. One in 3 years is good odds though.

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    Always C. The asker isn’t really asking a question. Their whole sentence actually is equivalent to them saying “hi”.

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      Then just say fuckin „hi“. Wtf do you need this stupid dancing around for? How is it considered normal to ask an ingenious ingenuine question and answer with a lie? How am I the weird one in this scenario?

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        It’s just a magic constant embedded in the standard conversational header, referencing an obsolete firmware version, but most users never update the client package so you have to ack it or you get undefined behavior.

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        I studied anthropology and the intricate rituals of the various neurotypicals for this very reason. The answer depends on what your culture determines to be weird, because usually we’re considered differently weird different places.

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        Because that’s just how neurotypical brains work.

        Trying to figure out a why for it will just drive you crazy, because it’s not something anyone knows for sure.

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          I think it’s more of a cultural thing, you grow up hearing that exchange and a neurotypical brain will just file it under “short, common greetings”.

          People don’t even think about the meaning of the words, they just grab something from the “common greeting replies” drawer without even looking.

          It’s the amount of possible variations after that that make it a huge mess.

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            People don’t even think about the meaning of the words, they just grab something from the “common greeting replies” drawer without even looking.

            This is how you wind up with the ‘Waiter: Enjoy your food! Me: Thanks, you too!’ situation

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    “Good thanks, you?”

    Or, “been better, so hot today”.

    you’re suppose to either say good or say bad with a witty (small talk) reason, that’s it.

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    I continue to do A. Helps me find other neurodivergent peeps and makes others uncomfortable. Sorts people out for me 🙂

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      There are 10,000 true things you could say. But you’re choosing the in-your-face truth to share. And that’s OK maybe, but don’t let your choice turn you into a jerk.

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      I can’t help but to do A.

      I’m in my late 30s, and only realized a couple years ago that option A wasn’t always the right answer.