• Steve Dice@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    Anon is depressed and self-sabotaged because he doesn’t think he’s worthy of love. Therapists should really advertise in 4chan.

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      2 days ago

      That or he didn’t love her, he didn’t say anything about love or emotional attachment or anything, just that she was Asian and fucked him.

      Anon wasn’t after a relationship, he was after a sex toy, and fundamentally misunderstanding what a relationship is and being in one that was entirely loveless was draining on him. He just didn’t realise why.

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        2 days ago

        You make a valid point but I’d argue that someone who can’t differentiate a want for sex from a want for a relationship still urgently needs a therapist.

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      3 days ago

      but this time I don’t care

      I mean, maybe he’s just happy on his own for now? It’s ok to have moments of doubt here and there (re: “staring at my PC” , “did it do it right”) but just because they broke up with their gf and went back to their self improvement routine doesn’t automatically mean self sabotage and all that.

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    2 days ago

    Breaking up wasn’t a bad idea. If he wasn’t invested in the relationship, he did her a favor.

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    3 days ago

    If they’re happier with their gym routine than they are with their girlfriend, she’s the wrong girlfriend. Anon did it right.

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      2 days ago

      Yeah it’s telling the only things he said about her was that she’s asian, makes him food and has sex with him.

      Annon has very 4chan-esque ideas about what a relationship is about and what he should get from it.

  • KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    3 days ago

    Fuck, I was kinda doing alright, making friends, getting out, part of a big kink/group sex community, then I met my current GF, I haven’t been to a sex party in months, I feel miserable 50% of the time, honestly most difficult person I’ve ever been with because of the way she sees life and relationships, wondering if I should break up with her.

    Only thing is I think I’m fooling myself Re how miserable I was

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        I think it’s the opposite, she’s a relationship anarchist and I can’t cope with this kind of relationship and how seemingly little importance I have in her life sometimes. I could do poly with a primary partner, but not RA.