I’m estranged from my family and have been for 10 years. I found out the police were trying to get a hold of me, but couldn’t because I am in Spain now.
Knowing his history and long term struggle with mental illness, it’s most likely suicide. I really, really hope it’s not something worse.
I tried calling the police department and they’re so, so fucking dumb.
Me: “Hi I’m calling in regards to a missing person’s case. I heard that the detective was trying to get a hold of me?”
Pig: Huh? Missing person’s case?
Me: Yeaaaaahhhh??? He went missing 2.5 months ago.
Pig: So are you reporting someone missing or are you asking about someone missing?
Me: ??? I’m asking about someone missing [Brother Name]
Pig: Oh. Let me look. It up…. Yes SHE went missing.
Me: Huh? You mean HE.
Pig: Looks like they were found, can I do anything else for you?
Me: Uh, no, that’s great to hear. Thanks.
——- 5 minutes later ———
Pig: SOOOOO I was wrong she I mean he are still missing.
Me: OK? Sooo.
Pig: The detective will want to talk to you. I’ve sent this number to the detective. They will call you back.
——— 1 Hour Later ———
Sergeant Pig: This is Sergeant Pig, what do you want? (WOW, PROFESSIONAL.)
Me: I’m calling about my missing brother, he’s my sibling. I heard the detective was looking for me.
Him: Oh. Who is he again?
Me: [Brother Name]
Sergeant Pig: Oh yeah he’s still missing. Give me your e-mail and I’ll have the detective contact you.
Me: [Gives e-mail]
Sergeant Pig: [Doesn’t check spelling] OK I got it I will let the detective know and they’ll contact you. (Click)
I still haven’t heard back and I need to call again. Double bonus, I am AFAB and the local press referred to me as the “niece” who possibly kidnapped my brother. (Press was talking to my aunt) SUPER.
ACAB.
Anyway, feels like shit. Even if we hadn’t spoken in a long time because our mother is a monster. Part of me knew it would end like this, but it’s still shit. Don’t know how to feel. I’ve been vaping too much, but I’ve been avoiding alcohol and I’ve been trying to keep up with things because I don’t have the space to sink over this.
I remember my car got stolen once. The cops came to my house and accused me of stealing my own car. Then when they found it they called me to let me know they were taking it to the impound at 2am, where it cost me 250 bucks to get my own car back. That whole incident showed me how absolutely useless the police are to working class people.
Lmfao that’s some chief wiggum shit
I seriously wanted to fist fight them when they came to my door. They were like “so we don’t think your car was stolen, we think you stole it yourself. This happens often” to which point I was like “to what benefit? How and why would I steal my own car?” And they were like “are you willing to take a lie detector test?” And I was like “YEAH FINE IF IT HELPS ME GET MY CAR BACK FASTER” like what the fuck are my tax dollars even paying for? I didn’t even get to take the stupid lie detector test, which I was actually excited for because I thought they were cool.
‘Lie detectors’ don’t even work. They just measure how stressed you are and assume that stress = lying.
I know, but I didn’t know that back then and I wanted to see one in action because I was super into aliens when I was a teenager and they always used them in those stories.
I have taken three polygraph tests in my life. I lied on all three, all different lies. They didn’t catch the real lies, but they accused me of lying on answers that were 100% true.
Polygraph tests are voodoo. Their results can be interpreted any way they want. NEVER take one by law enforcement, no matter how much they try to shame you into it. They aren’t admissable in any court in America, so there is no reason for them. Refuse all demands for a polygraph.
Sherlock Holmes detective work if Sherlock Holmes had sniffed some ether, fell down, and cratered his frontal lobe on the corner of an oak desk.
Sherlock Holmes, but in the middle of one of his cocaine benders.
I was walking along the street one day, years ago, wearing a Guns N Roses t shirt. A group of teenage boys began harassing me over it and called me a goth, then battered me around the head with a lead pipe. I managed to escape and get home, went to the hospital for treatment. Police were called. When I described the incident to the policeman, he looked at my shirt in a very disparaging way, and in an accusatory tone of voice asked, And ARE you a goth?" As if it was my fault. Of course they did nothing about apprehending my attackers.
Some years after that i was sexually assaulted in the street by a gang of 4 men and the police were even worse.
Damn, for a guns and roses shirt? They aren’t even close to goth.
Guns and Roses?? The favorite band of 60 year old white dads?
JFC. Also gnr are goth? When did this happen?!
That was actually ages ago, around 2001. The town I lived in, if you weren’t a tracksuit-wearing townie, you were “goth.”
That’s wild. People will seize on any excuse to be nasty, when it’s just as easy to seize on any excuse to be kind. I’m sorry that happened to you, and glad that with all the mess you’re experiencing, you’re still a kind person.
Thank you.
and fuck them useless pigs being assholes to you and the local press for being double assholes to you.Yeah damn I’m just over here vibing and I look over and the press is talking about how I could have abducted my brother. I wonder who implied that!? (Hint: My mom)
My family went through this with an uncle at one point. Actually no clue where he is or if he’s even alive anymore. Last I heard he was homeless in Florida. The cops were just totally adversarial and not helpful at all. At one point they blamed my dad for making my uncle homeless. Cops aren’t there to help anyone especially not folks who are struggling with mental illness.
The whole system is fucked up. We were trying to find him to help him but nobody would help us or him.
Yeah my brother was in a stable home and was medicated. He basically went out for a walk and didn’t come back and was reported missing and vulnerable the same day. The news and local subreddits posted about it and he has a lot of people looking for him, but I have a feeling that my mom didn’t give the full story because from what I read family members/the press were told that my brother did not have a history of suicidality or self harm but oh boy, that’s an absolute lie.
I want to get a hold of the detective and give them the full history but then I worry they’ll just go “eh, ok it’s suicide then” and then write the situation off. (Which they absolutely would do).
It’s so shitty. The lack of closure is so painful. I’m sorry about your uncle.
ACAB, 1312, etc.
this probably isn’t very helpful but maybe you could get a free consultation with a libel attorney, just to see if you might be eligible for a payout for all of this grievous lying to the press your family has done
If nothing else you could probably compel them to retract their statements
Eh, it’s all vague from them in the articles and it was written in a way that’s like “We have not been able to get a hold of sister/niece. They may have left with [brother], but it is unlikely.” It’s just vague enough to activate couch detectives, but not enough to out me specifically. I’ve also transitioned and moved to another country I’m too busy trying to get my citizenship/settle in.
