32 years old. My employer is a soccer manager, businessman and retired player. Been working for him since 2019. 1 daughter & 1 son: 12 & 14 years old. No wife.

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    19 hours ago

    Have the kids grown to treat you like you’re their new mother?

    Does the boss also demand that you do all the house chores, like cleaning?

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    17 hours ago

    How do you see your long term monogamous relationship prospects affected because of the “live in” situation.?

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      No and no. I believe he respects me as the de facto mother of his children. I do find him attractive, but I could never be with a man like him (man-whore). Long-term, monogamous relationships are my thing.

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      The moms are not in the picture. The kids are the results of hookups. Their dad is promiscuous which is why there’s no wife either. When he’s home, he tries to spend as much time with his kids as possible.

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    How are the kids relationships with their parents? Does having a nanny in the picture seem to have weakened it?

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      They’re super close with their dad, even though he’s very strict. They never met their moms (the kids are from different women). I’d say it has strengthened it if anything, they benefit greatly from having a mother figure in their lives.

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          Their dad didn’t want to share authority. Also didn’t want to be tied down to any woman. Paid off the women to have the babies and disappear. Not surrogates. Hookups.

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    Do you live under any restrictions due to your job, such as curfew or restrictions on guests? I’ve heard that’s the case for many live-in nannies.

    Something else entirely: Do you believe in the existence of an absolute morality? What does it look like, or where does it come from? Do you have some favourite moral principles?

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      Restrictions: no male guests allowed; female guests require permission. / no curfew, but giving notice is required if leaving/coming home late & it has to be as unnoticed as possible + can’t affect work performance. / only modest clothing allowed + my hair and makeup always have to be done. / drinking, smoking and drugs strictly prohibited. / no swearing. I don’t believe in absolutely morality. If lying is wrong, should you tell the truth to a murderer asking where your friend is hiding? If stealing is wrong, what about a starving child stealing bread? Moral principles: do not kill innocent people, do not steal, do not lie, do not harm or exploit others, treat others as you wish to be treated (Golden Rule) - not absolute though.

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        do not kill innocent people

        Who decides innocence? And where is the line between not innocent but shouldn’t be killed and not innocent and deserves to be killed?