I finally got around to seeing “I Saw The TV Glow”, and it definitely lived up to the hype.

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  • gaystyleJoker [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    4·
    1 month ago

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  • Moss [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    24·
    1 month ago

    It seems that all the working on my appearance has paid off because someone called me hot today! That’s the first time I’ve ever had that happen.

    Problem is I have literally no idea how to flirt so I kinda just smiled and walked away. What the fuck are you supposed to do when that happens

  • musicenjoyer [it/its, xe/xem]@hexbear.netEnglish
    21·
    1 month ago

    gender cw : dysphoria, discussion of essentialism

    spoiler

    I don’t have a gender , I used to identify as transmasc but don’t relate to masculinity so I think agender is right. Don’t like being perceived as or being a woman but wouldn’t like being a man either. I hate the ‘born this way’ narrative, we shouldn’t have to justify why we’re trans. I feel a lot of research about gender being “hardwired” just reinforces bio essentialism under the name of ‘acceptance’ , it’s always agab language and treating sex as an absolute truth. i didn’t fully realize everything until recently , like I said earlier trans people don’t need justification for why they exist.

    • Thallo [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      16·
      1 month ago
      spoiler

      Yeah, anytime people bring up the “actually, trans brainwaves are more in line with their preferred gender than their assigned one 🤓”

      I’m like… Stfu? Who fucking cares what my brainwaves look like? That data cannot be used for good.

  • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    20·
    1 month ago

    I’m reading Trans/Rad/Fem by Talia Bhatt and it’s so good, but also how do you go about your day normally after realising by being a trans woman you’re a revolutionary in a war against the heterosexual occupation of gender that has lasted over five thousand years?

    • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      16·
      1 month ago

      Reading this book has made me think my transfeminism is equally as important as my Marxism-Leninism in ways that intersect, compliment and diverge at times.

      Like the relationship between Juche and Marxism-Leninism.

      • imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        14·
        1 month ago

        have completely agreed with this for some time, transfeminism and gender accelerationism must be an integral part of any revolutionary neo-Marxism fit to carry us forward into a better world. dialectical philosophy in general has been super helpful for me to build my conception of my self and my gender too.

        • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          11·
          1 month ago

          Definitely I was sort of working things out by applying dialectical materialism to gender, but the book managed to summarise stuff I was already seeing the shape of.

      • SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml
        4·
        1 month ago

        Like the relationship between Juche and Marxism-Leninism.

        Ok but what is the relationship between Juche and Marxism-Leninism? Because I’ve tried to wrap my head around it a few times and always struggle.

        (Also, Juche Gender, let’s fucking gooo!)

        • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          2·
          1 month ago

          It’s kind of like how in South East Asia many religions can be complimentary with another. You can be a Buddhist or a Taoist or both together

          Juche is a materialist philosophy of self determination based of the Korean people’s cultural history and experience. It is not contradictory to ML or DiaMat (or at least mostly)

          Think two significantly overlapping circles on the venn diagram. The DPRK uses both. Like if you’d discovered calculus one way and another person showed you their way. Each with some separate extra bits and idiosyncrasies.

  • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    19·
    1 month ago

    I should have gotten on the dating apps way sooner, I’m having such a fun time flirting with trans and queer cuties all day. Currently talking to a trans woman who’s nearly twice my age because my higher power was smiling on me while I was swiping that day.

    Lots of libs though. So many libs.

      • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        7·
        1 month ago

        It’s a coin flip whether a trans person is a based communist or lib. (Landing on the side is rightwing grifter). This is still a better ratio than the cis though.

      • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.netMEnglish
        2·
        1 month ago

        Yeah, all my cis straight coworkers complaining about how they can’t get laid to save their lives. They’re not ugly, they just act like cis straight dudes. Meanwhile I’m a full grown adult with a curfew (gotta love sober living) and I get so many matches I get overwhelmed by the number of titty pics I receive in a day.

        I just don’t know how to explain to them that all they have to do is want to work on themselves a little bit and they’d probably do a lot better

  • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]@hexbear.netEnglish
    16·
    1 month ago

    This probably isn’t new to anyone who’s dated men (and hope I’m not generalizing this to just one gender etc) but damn I’m starting to see the litmus test for a lot of these guys is seeing how they react when under pressure or frustration. Seeing some of these guys who I’ll admit are pretty cute in their way melt down when shit goes bad or get extremely bitter is like catgirl-huh The course’s theme I’ve picked out is failure all over the place but you get up and try again. Frustration is alright and shit’s not gonna be perfect but it’s fine. Today I learned something new that I didn’t know beforehand and I’ll keep learning something new going forward and testing myself.

  • EstraDoll [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    16·
    1 month ago

    impressing him on the first date by taking him to a coffee shop while i’m wearing all white and swinging around my drink recklessly without spilling a drop somehow